This section ISTJ-INFJ relationship is about how the dynamics of these two personality types in a relationship. The INFJ and ISTJ relationship is one that is relatively rare, but I've had several requests for an article about this pairing so I thought I'd make. I have major problems with ISTJs and get along pretty well with ESTJs. . The main negative to an ISTJ/INFJ relationship is that an INFJ can.
Otherwise you have an INFJ who is sulking behind your back because they can't fully express themselves, and that secondary extroverted feeling function demands that they -- let out their wacky side.
They're okay with a few messes here and there, but it is hard for them to sustain a long term relationship with someone who can't handle their own garbage. They'll start to get disgusted, annoyed, distracted, and offended. The INFJ needs someone who is balanced -- not too messy and not too clean.
ISTJ Personality (“The Logistician”)
They'll think something is wrong with you psychologically if you constantly are fidgeting away with all the cleaning supplies. INFJ tends to end up being a pious individual, a role model for all. ISTJ would like someone who does have strong maintenance in their social affairs, and isn't just three sheets to the wind.
ISTJ doesn't want a rocky relationship, or really, rocky anything. They like their affairs in an orderly fashion, not having problems with work, family, or their hobbies. These two will get each other on a gut level, and will enjoy having someone that doesn't completely mirror them. Neither are terrible at either kind of T or F rational -- they can both use feelings and thoughts evenly.
Of course, they may have a preference for one or the other, but it isn't near as drastic as the gap with intuition and sensing. It isn't always easy dating someone with complete opposite dominate and inferior functions, but it might be easier for sensing and intuitive types to get along than having an opposite feeling-thinking dynamic.
Having feeling and thinking at the top makes for a more verbose person, whether arguing or fleshing out their emotions. Intuitives and sensors tend to be It's because they need to gather information, not just project it. Extroverted sensors and intuitives try to spark a stimulus in order to gather information and understand it. This can be helpful for introverted information gatherers as it will help pose questions and bring things to light.
The Case for an INFJ and ISTJ Romance
When it seems to be abstract, bizarre, or theory based -- let the INFJ take the wheel. They can creatively get to a proper solution. They are empathetic and make for great counselors. Go on quiet dates, not loud ones with too much variety that gets you both distracted.
Too much stimulus can be the bane for introverted information seekers; they'll enjoy the date, but they might not be getting a direct dosage of who you are. Don't be afraid that your relationship progress might be slower than other couples.
You have personalities that don't like to rush and screw everything up into a big, nasty, and prolific mess. The INFJ wants to be enjoyed.
ISTJ Personality (“The Logistician”) | 16Personalities
Keep asking questions to try to understand. It's okay if either one of you are shy. An INFJ needs to be comfortable that people have pasts. Those pasts do not necessarily effect you. In recreation, both enjoy that alone time and at the most with a close group of friends; both do not like big social gatherings or parties.
If they have a common interest, introverts will enjoy those long, deep meaningful conversations they can have with one another.
Both are naturally good listeners; they will enjoy taking turns to share and asking questions to one another. Struggles Without a common interest, they may find it challenging to keep the conversation going. In a short while, they may find they run out of things to talk about.
Because both enjoy the silence so much, they may take communication for granted and not share their feelings with each other often enough.
May lack a support network if both do not belong to a community because of their lack of desire to socialize. Sensing-Intuition Joys Sensors enjoys the insightful and brilliant Intuitive and seeing things from a big picture, strategic perspective relative to theirs.
Sensors are also likely fascinated by the outlandish imagination of the Intuitive; with big dreams and visions. Intuitives will appreciate the Sensors attention to detail in everyday living; Sensors bring Intuitives down to earth to common sense.
While not true for all Sensors, Sensors dress themselves and groom themselves relatively well; this is something that Intuitives will appreciate and admire. Struggles May find it a challenge to have a common topic for discussion; Sensors enjoy talking about everyday happenings while Intuitive enjoys ideas, trends and theories. These differences in interest may mean the couple may find little or no chemistry.
Sensors are more past and present focused while Intuitives tend to be more future oriented; This means that Sensors will take references from past experiences and present facts to make a decision, while Intuitives are more likely to take into account future possibilities when doing so. Sensors may find Intuitives' lack of interest in everyday living and managing household tasks to be frustrating; they don't understand why Intuitives are always 'in their heads', pondering about the deep things of life while they are the ones taking care of the duties of the household.
Thinking-Feeling Joys Thinker will be attracted to the Feeler's compassion and warmth toward Thinker and others, which Thinker may find lacking in self.If an ISTJ Falls For You, These 9 Things Will Likely To Happen
Feeler is attracted to the objective, tough-minded Thinker who can take and give criticism without taking offense. The Thinker-Feeler partnership will provide all rounded perspectives, considering people, values and logical consequences when making important decisions.