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Are you a take-charge firstborn—or the attention-hungry baby of the family? Where you fall in your family's birth-order hierarchy helps shape. We tend to associate first-born siblings with leadership and success and “the First-born kids are poised for success First-born children have a that middle- born kids are more relationship-focused, which bodes well for their careers. When you're the last-born child of the family, you have to contend with. As a result most firstborn brothers of brothers have a special magnetic aura that both women and men become greatly attracted to and makes them want to.
You are adored and loved dearly by your parents, and are smothered with attention. Once the family grows and another boy comes along, you're already bigger, stronger and are able to walk and talk. Because of this, you tend to get your way by being dominating and bossy towards your younger brother. Without knowing it, you are perceived as a leader. You're so used to dominating those under you as a child, that you adopt this trait throughout your adult life.
On the positive side, you acquired kindness, consideration, and helpful qualities. As a result most firstborn brothers of brothers have a special magnetic aura that both women and men become greatly attracted to and makes them want to follow your lead. You also have a natural ability to lead and excel in business because they enjoy status and recognition.
Best match Since you grew up in a family that lacked female siblings, you tend to have a hard time understanding women and being romantic. The best match for you is your opposite, a younger sister of brothers. There is a magnetic touch that attracts you to her femininity. The younger sister of brothers also feels this attraction, because she yearns for a boy who is a natural leader like her older brother.
Worst Match An older sister of brothers isn't a good match for you because you'll both fight to become a leader in the relationship. An older sister of sisters is also a poor match, since both of you grew up in a single sex family and lacked the understanding of the opposite sex.
Older Brother of Sisters As a brother with many siblings sisters, you have the greatest understanding of women. You are a terrific listener, a good friend and patient suitor. Women are drawn to you because you understand their feelings and problems more than they do. In your childhood, you learned that your younger sister was special and needed respect, kindness and lots of consideration.
Knowing this, you tend to carry a special charm towards women by making them feel extra special, loved and understood. Best match A younger sister of brothers is your best match, as she responds well to the attention and charm that you give. She is very attracted to you because you understand her inner nature. This is because you have character traits of kindness, attentiveness and leadership. Worst Match A firstborn is your worst match because you naturally prefer to lead.
This brings in conflict as other firstborns tend to be just as dominating as you. Older Sister of Sisters You're greatest strength is your drive, dominance, strength and courage. You always accomplish your goals and you bring in more success in your life than others do. You have high standards and you're a perfectionist. More than other girls, you have a natural tendency and preference to be in control. You also relate and identify better to older men, or men in high positions.
This comes from your childhood, as you always accepted your fathers wishes unquestioningly. You transfer your strong bonding with your father into romantic relations with older men or male authority figures.
Best Match Younger brother of sisters is your greatest match, because his personality compliments you best. You are exact opposites, and sparks can definitely fly. You're nervous, dominant and pushy, he's calm, relaxed, easy going and agreeable.
Most girls with younger brothers like to tease, play and baby man. This is what your partner needs. A Younger brother of brothers is also a good match for you.
This is because neither of you have an advantage over the other. A relationship between firstborns and lastborns tend to bring out your best qualities and have a high chance of success. Worst Match Older brother of brothers is your worst match.
Both of you like to be leaders in all situations and enjoy being in charge. This can bring conflict and a difficult time in understanding each other in a long term relationship. There are some exceptions to this, as two firstborns could feel a strong connection due to a narcissistic type of attraction. It's like falling in love with yourself, which can give you a sense of security.
Older Sister of Brothers Like Cleopatra, who was a firstborn, you have great feminine, dominance and strong maternal instincts. You tend to be more religious, traditional and conservative than other girls.
You like people who share your views and religious values. In a relationship, you take on the protective role and you like to baby men, and make sure they don't get hurt.
Men are greatly attracted to your helpfulness and caring nature.
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Best Match Younger brother of sisters is your magical match. You appreciate his humour and laid back easy going qualities. He's used to a girl like you from his childhood. He's fun, creative and easy going just like a younger brother of sisters. Both of you will have a great understanding of each other.
You can also have a good match with an older brother of sisters. This is a narcissistic type of relationship. You'll love him, as you love yourself. If you share power and control, you can have high chances of succeeding and making it work in the long run. Worst Match Older brother of brothers is a difficult match for you. He has a challenge understanding you, since he grew up without any sisters.
He also wants to be in control of everything, so conflict can arise. Lastborns Younger Brother of Brothers You have all the creativity, social skills, sense of humour and the most active sense of curiosity in the family. You developed these traits in response to having an older brother in your childhood. Although there are two types of middle child—the outgoing and the loner—both still share the common tendency to be good at compromising.
Last Borns Studies have shown that last born children rate fairly similar to their middle-born counterparts but are also attributed more negative descriptors in keeping with the stereotype of them being spoiled.
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If the last born came many years after their nearest sibling, though, their experience is more like that of an only child. Firstborn to Firstborn This kind of blend could be seen a little risky since both are going to fight for dominance. But did you know that Bill and Hilary Clinton are both firstborns? And because of that they were a classic combination of control, self-driven and natural leaders.
This combination may fight over simple things like where to eat, what to eat, what movie to watch since they both want to be always in control but all relationships have this kind of phase—only this combination would feel it more intense since they are not used to compromising.
Middle children may be good with compromising, which is a good trait for a long-lasting relationships but they are so convenient to be with that being with a firstborn whose personality is usually controlling and dominating could be the cause of lack of self-improvement on the side of the middle child.
They might not be able to pursue their own dreams and goals in life because of their accommodating nature. The issues usually focus on perfectionism and who has control. If you are a first-born or only child married to another first-born or only child, here are some tips for reducing tension and increasing harmony in your marriage. Stop "improving" on things your spouse does or says. To a perfectionist, this may be a real trick, but bite your tongue and do it anyway. The New Testament compares the tongue to the bit in a horse's mouth or the rudder of a huge ship see James 3: This vivid metaphor says it all.
The bit and the rudder control everything, and the tongue can literally determine the direction of your marriage. Stop "shouldering" your mate. For first-born perfectionists, criticism is second nature. Once you quit trying to jump high, you can stop asking your mate to do so as well. Define roles carefully to avoid arguments over control. In other words, decide who does what.
One spouse can do the shopping while the other pays the bills and balances the checking account. Help each other with assigned tasks and try to be considerate and aware of the other's responsibilities. If one spouse does the shopping, the other should not complain about the high grocery bill. I counseled one couple where the perfectionist, critical husband complained incessantly until his wife told him, "Okay, you shop this week. Get rid of the we've got-to-do-it-my-way attitude. The old cliche applies: There is more than one way to skin a cat and your way is not necessarily best.
One of the best sentences any first-born perfectionist can learn to say to his or her first-born spouse is: Let's try it your way. At the same time, the middle child can be a vexing paradox. Middle children grow up having to learn to negotiate, mediate, and compromise, but they can also be secretive and play it close to the vest with their emotions. I have found that middle children typically will throw their first-born spouses a bone once in a while without letting them know how they really feel.
Some practical suggestions for first borns married to middles include: Make it a point to have regular recaps and discuss feelings and what is happening. Do not let your spouse toss you a bone by saying, "Everything's fine. I know of one couple who did their recapping while discussing the sermon they had heard at church. Discussing their spiritual beliefs and values was a way to open up about feelings that were bothering one or both of them. Make your spouse feel special. Remember that the middle-child husband or wife very likely did not grow up feeling special, so anything you do--small gifts, love notes, saying sincere little things he or she likes to hear--will touch the heart and strengthen your marriage.
While the following applies to every birth order, it's especially good for the first-born husband of the middle-child wife to remember: Every day women ask in one way or another, "Do you really love me?
Work on drawing out your middle-child spouse. Keep in mind that as a first born your natural inclination is to give the answer, solve the problem. Instead, back off and ask, "What do you think? Middle borns are not only more perceptive, but they like the problem-solving role and smoothing a way for everyone.
First Born Plus Last Born Equals Bliss Usually According to one study of three thousand families, the odds for a happy marriage increase a great deal when the first born hooks up with the last born.
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What is at work here is the opposites-attract-and-are-good-for-each-other factor. The first born teaches the last born little things that may be lacking, such as being organized and having goals, while the last born helps the first born lighten up and not take an overly serious approach to life. According to the researchers, the best possible match you can find is the first-born female and the last-born male. I took no part in this research so I can't be accused of making this claim because that happens to be the match Sande, my first-born wife, and I have.
I'm just very thankful it happened. First-born females are often mothering types and last-born males often need mothering. I started out being fortunate to be the last-born brother of my first-born sister, Sally.
Eight years older than I, she mothered me quite a bit and taught me a lot about women. For example, she taught me that girls don't like being approached by a bunch of boys who are show-offs--pushing each other, talking loudly, and doing stupid things that guys often do.
Sally also told me girls want a guy who is tender, understanding, and a listener, who realizes manners have not gone out of style.
Most marriage counselors agree that men do not understand women very well. So any extra learning a boy can get while growing up is going to help him later when he has a wife and family of his own.
Of course in my case, I certainly didn't come into our marriage a finished product. I still needed some work, and Mama Bear was happy to oblige. How Mama Bear Reformed Cubby Bear It may be a good rule of thumb to say any combination of first born and last born has a better chance for marital success than do other combinations, but success doesn't follow automatically.
Good marriages are made, not born. Two people must work together on being considerate, caring, and mutually supportive. Naturally the Cub took advantage of his new caregiver. Sande had to put up with my fussy eating habits and picking up my clothes after me wherever I dropped them.
This went on through the early years of our marriage. One day, while I was working on my doctorate, Sande heard me expostulating on how to discipline children and hold them accountable for their actions. If holding children accountable for their actions is good, holding a husband accountable might be even better, Sande thought. She went into action.
Soon I found my little piles of clothing where I had left them. In no time the apartment became covered with my piles.
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Then came the day when I could not open the door because Sande had shoved a giant stack of my clothes against it to make room for whatever she was doing. That got my attention. Sande and I had a long overdue talk and shared our feelings. You learn to pick up your own clothes and put them where they belong. Also, I'm going to fix different things for dinner. I expect you to at least try some new dishes.
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You owe that much to yourself and to our children--if you want to be the good role model you keep talking about.
Don't let the last-born spouse take advantage of you. Sande was gentle-spirited but firm. She started expecting me to be a leader in our home and take an active role in meeting responsibilities. At times, she reminded me of my high school English teacher--the one in whose class I never goofed off because I knew better. I even learned that changing diapers is not off-limits for a psychologist with a doctor's degree, and when our children started to arrive, I did my share of diapers, giving baths, and other baby care.